Adoption
Johanna Triegel MD
INTRODUCTION
Adoption has been a way to create families for thousands of years, despite the common belief that adopting children is less desirable than bearing and raising biologic offspring. Adoption in fact may be the only way to create a family for parents unable to have children. Adoption also provides families for children who, because of birth parent relinquishment, poverty, or abandonment, might otherwise grow up in foster care, orphanages, or even on the street. Adoption can, and usually does, work well for everyone involved. Both adoptive parents and birth parents can derive profound satisfaction from knowing that their child has grown up to become a happy, productive adult.
The emphasis in this chapter is on supporting the child and his or her adoptive parents. For convenience only, parents are referred to in the plural, though many adoptive parents are single. The aim of this chapter is to review common problems adoptive families face so that the primary care provider will be able to help such families succeed.
TODAY’S ADOPTIVE FAMILY
Adoption traditionally has been thought of as a way for an infertile couple to have and raise a child. This perception, however, excludes a large number of families with adopted children. The reality of adoption today is that:
Many children are adopted by relatives, foster parents, and nontraditional families, such as single, gay, or lesbian parents.
Biologic children may already be present in the family.
The adopted child usually is not a newborn and may have come from abroad.
Who Is Adopted?
Between 110,000 and 120,000 children are adopted every year in the United States (National Committee for Adoption, 1989). Of these, about half are adopted by relatives (including stepparents) and half by nonrelatives. In the United States, about 1.5 million families (or 2.2% of all U.S. families) have at least one adopted child (Adoption in the U.S., 1996). These data are only approximations, however, because states are not required to report their statistics to any federal agency.
Adoptees Born in the United States
Approximately 50% of adopted infants born in the United States are adopted without agency assistance. Most of these are open adoptions to some degree, with varying degrees of contact maintained among the birth parent(s), adopted child, and adoptive parents. Fewer than 50% of domestic adoptions are infants; the rest are older children and children with so-called special needs (Stolley, 1993). Children with special needs make up about 25% of domestic adoptions. These children may have disabilities, serious medical conditions, or psychological problems. They also may be older (over age 5), part of a sibling group, or members of a minority group (National Committee for Adoption, 1989).
At any one time, approximately 500,000 children are in foster care in the United States. Many more children are available for adoption than actually are placed. Children in foster care generally are more difficult to place than infants. Reasons for this include older age, race, the presence of sibling groups, a history of maternal substance abuse and neglect, or a history of long placement in foster or multiple homes. The average length of stay in foster care before adoption is 4 to 5 years. Approximately 90% of children adopted from foster care are adopted by their foster parents, a few of whom are biologic relatives. Thus, these children may have had long relationships with their adoptive families (Adoption Medical News, 1996).
Adoptees Born in Other Countries
About 15,000 children are adopted from other countries each year. Most are infants, with very few of them younger than 4 to 6 months old. Despite constant challenges due to changing economic and political factors and abrupt closings and openings of adoption programs, the number of international adoptions has risen every year and probably will continue to increase. At the same time, the countries of origin for most of these children have changed almost completely. In 1989, the most common country of origin was Korea, followed distantly by Colombia, India, the Philippines, and Chile. In 1998, the two most common countries of origin were Russia and China, followed by Korea and more distantly by Guatemala and Romania (Personal Communication, Immigration and Naturalization Service and U.S. Department of Justice, 1999). In general, children now are most likely to come from Eastern Europe and the former Soviet Union, East Asia, and Central and South America, with smaller numbers from Southeast Asia, India, and Africa. This mix probably will continue to change. On the whole, children adopted from abroad are more likely to come from very poor developing countries than they were a decade ago. They often have experienced prolonged institutional care, with limited access to good nutrition and medical care.
Russia and Eastern Europe
The number of children adopted from Russia and Eastern Europe was small until 1992, but increased steadily over the next several years. This region has now become the most popular area for adoption. These children are more likely to be older infants or toddlers. Virtually all have been in institutions for some time (often for long periods) before placement. These youngsters may be part of sibling groups. One of the most challenging aspects of adopting children from Russia and Eastern Europe is the frequency of abandonment
and maternal alcohol abuse. In one study of children adopted from Eastern European orphanages, maternal alcoholism was listed in 17% of referral documents, while fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS) was found in 2.4% of referrals (Johnson et al., 1996).
and maternal alcohol abuse. In one study of children adopted from Eastern European orphanages, maternal alcoholism was listed in 17% of referral documents, while fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS) was found in 2.4% of referrals (Johnson et al., 1996).
China
The number of children adopted from China was small until 1993 to 1994. Since then, adoptions have increased rapidly, largely because of abandonment resulting from China’s one-child policy, rather than social or medical issues. Almost all Chinese children available for adoption are girls. Their health usually is quite good, largely because of early placement with adoptive families. Since reorganization of the Chinese adoption system in 1997, however, children have been slightly older on arrival and may have more problems related to longer periods in large orphanages. These problems may include developmental delay (generally transient, with resolution seen sometime after placement) and attachment disorders due to institutionalization. Parents must be older than 30. They may be single (although single men must be over 40). Older parents must be willing to accept older infants and toddlers.
Korea
Adopted children have come from Korea for many years and generally have been healthy. The number of children available from Korea, while higher prior to the early 1990s, has remained in the range of 1600 to 1800 per year (U.S. Immigrations and Naturalization Service). Korea has a high standard of living and excellent medical care, and the children often have quite complete accompanying medical records. Children are cared for in foster homes or orphanages and may be normal developmentally except for some gross motor delay from being carried on the backs of caretakers. This “piggybacking” is a cultural norm for Korean child raising.
Who Adopts?
Because restrictions on parental eligibility have relaxed over the last 20 to 30 years, the range of people seeking to adopt has broadened considerably. Today’s adoptive parents include the following:
Married couples with primary or secondary infertility
Relatives of the adopted child
Foster parents, who may have other foster or biologic children
Single women or men
Gay or lesbian couples
Older parents
Parents with disabilities
People who choose adoption over biologic parenting
Although generalizing about such a diverse group is difficult, it usually is true that adoptive parents are older than biologic parents and are of higher socioeconomic status.
PREPARING POTENTIAL PARENTS FOR ADOPTION
The provider often is the first person that a family approaches with questions about adoption. The provider has a wonderful opportunity to offer support and insight during a long and complicated process that can be emotionally and financially draining. There are many things to discuss with parents, including readiness for adoption and lifestyle issues. Readiness for adoption includes issues related to motivation, infertility, acceptance of children with special needs or from different ethnic and racial backgrounds, and gender preferences. Lifestyle issues involve health, finances, emotional stability, work, family obligations, and health care.
Readiness for Adoption
Ideally, parents are exploring adoption because they want above all to love and parent a child. They do not view adoption as inferior to biologic parenting. They think of the adopted child as the child they have always wanted. They accept that the child most likely will not look like them and may have an entirely different temperament.
Acceptance of Infertility
If the parents are considering adoption because of infertility, acceptance of their infertility and the loss of a biologic relationship with their child is essential. Usually this means that they have stopped fertility treatments. Some adoption agencies require that parents have not just stopped treatment, but also are using birth control.
Considering Children With Special Needs
Some parents express an interest in adopting a child with a medical problem or fall into a group likely to be offered a child with special needs (eg, older parental age or single marital status). Such individuals must consider carefully the lifelong implications of such a placement and their ability to meet that child’s needs. Parents should evaluate honestly their feelings and abilities, recognizing that adoption involves a great deal of uncertainty and that problems may be either better or worse than described in referral documents. The clinician should be as objective and supportive as possible and prepared to describe the range of problems that parents may encounter.
Parents who want a healthy child should never feel pressured to adopt a child who has a problem that they cannot handle. Having the parents review a special needs checklist (Display 6-1) may be an extremely useful starting point for discussion about children with special needs. This checklist also can assist the provider in gauging the parents’ understanding of the risks of adoption.
DISPLAY 6–1 • Special Needs Checklist
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The clinician can assist the family by avoiding extremes when describing problems and their ranges. Connecting descriptions to local sources for referral and support also can help the parents make informed decisions.
Ethnic, Racial, and Gender Issues
Most children from abroad are of a different racial or ethnic background than parents who are adopting. Parents need to consider carefully such differences. If parents are planning an interracial or international adoption, unresolved feelings about infertility may come painfully to the foreground after the adoption is complete. The parents may be the recipients of many embarrassing, intrusive, and even offensive questions if the child obviously is not biologically related (eg, of a different skin color). Complete strangers may feel entitled to discuss the parents’ infertility without invitation and to question the parents’ relationship to their child.
For many reasons, adoptive parents frequently express a distinct preference for adopting a boy or a girl. This may
limit their options to some degree, and the provider may need to discuss gender and race preferences.
limit their options to some degree, and the provider may need to discuss gender and race preferences.
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The provider should help the family to consider questions such as the following:
How will your family accept a child of another race?
Can you handle the public attention (both good and bad) that such children receive?
Will you be able to recognize and deal with racism directed toward your child?
How do you feel about incorporating your child’s heritage, including customs and holidays, into your family?
Will opportunities exist for your child to network with others of his or her ethnic or racial background?
How do you feel about your child growing up and marrying someone of his or her race or a different race?
Clinical Warning
Some prospective parents (such as older or single parents) may have difficulty finding healthy infants in North America. They may consider an international adoption in an effort to avoid a special needs placement. Both the family and the provider must appreciate that children from abroad may be older and at risk for problems arising from extreme poverty, nutritional deficiencies, lack of medical care, and prolonged institutional care, including severe behavioral and emotional problems. Most come with virtually no birth or family history and no likelihood of ever obtaining such information.
Lifestyle Issues
The beginning of the adoption process is a good time for a thorough evaluation of the parents’ health, especially if they are older or single. Parents are required to have a medical evaluation as part of their dossier, but this often is done in a very cursory fashion because of the parents’ desire to move quickly through a large volume of paperwork. The wise provider will address health issues at the beginning of the adoption process.
Some other issues the provider may want to address include financial stability, emotional and financial support, plans for work and child care, and the presence of other family obligations, such as care of an elderly relative. This consideration is especially important for single parents.
Parents should be sure that their health insurance covers dependent children, even those who have preexisting medical conditions. The Health Insurance Act of 1996 (P.L. 104-191, known as the Kennedy-Kassebaum Bill) bans group health insurance carriers from excluding adopted children because of preexisting conditions as long as such children have been included in the insurance plan within 30 days of adoption. It also allows parents to obtain coverage without having to wait until an open enrollment period and has “portability provisions” for when the parent changes insurance plans or jobs.
ASSISTING THE FAMILY AT THE TIME OF PLACEMENT
Adoption usually is a very slow process, but eventually parents will have a referral for a child. At this time, they may return to their provider for advice about a particular child’s health or special needs. Parents may seek an opinion about a prospective placement but with very scant information about the child. They are entitled to as much information as
they need to make a decision about placement, but at times they may suspect that the information they have received is incomplete. Information that parents should seek at the time of placement is outlined in Display 6-2.
they need to make a decision about placement, but at times they may suspect that the information they have received is incomplete. Information that parents should seek at the time of placement is outlined in Display 6-2.
DISPLAY 6–2 • Information to Seek at the Time of Referral
Birth family medical history, including the following:
Medical illnesses
Mental health history
History of genetic disorders
Ethnic origin
History of substance abuse of birth parents
Assessment of risk for infection with HIV, hepatitis B and C, STDs
Birth history, including the following:
Results of the physical examination, including height, weight, and head circumference
Results of any screening tests of mother or child
Immunization records
Dental records
History of illnesses, injuries, and hospitalizations
Allergies and medications
Consultants’ evaluations, including educational and behavioral
Chronology of placement in foster care
History of past abuse or neglect
Reasons for relinquishment or termination of parental rights
Considerations Related to the Child’s Age and Origin
Most parents are quite realistic and understand the limitations of the information they receive and the risks involved. They expect the provider only to give as honest an assessment as possible and to provide some insight into problems they may encounter. They also may seek information about specific medical problems or support groups of people with similar experiences. The provider must appreciate that potential medical and psychological issues differ markedly for each child. Some particulars depend on the child’s history and country of origin.
Infants Adopted in the United States
Because these adoptions usually are open to some degree, substantial information may be available about biologic and family history, pregnancy, and delivery. The birth mother usually (but not always) has received adequate prenatal care. Medical problems typically have been identified. A western-trained clinician almost certainly will have examined the child, and the results of that examination are known. If the placement occurs at birth, however, congenital anomalies may not yet have been detected.
Older Children Adopted in the United States
These children are likely to have been in some kind of temporary placement and tend to be older, because toddlers rarely are available for adoption. Their basic nutritional needs probably have been met, and they most likely have had some past medical care. Medical records frequently are available, although they may be incomplete. Any handicaps probably are being treated. Most North American-born adoptees either are healthy or have defined diagnoses with accompanying information.
These children may have had some level of comfort and affection if they only had one or two placements in foster homes. Some children, however, have been in many foster homes or are isolated from biologic family members, including siblings. They may have a history of abuse or neglect and may be quite emotionally troubled.
Clinical Warning
Children in foster care have a high prevalence of chronic medical problems, emotional and behavioral disorders, mental health problems, and educational needs. They usually have received inadequate preventive services, including immunizations. Information about older children adopted from foster care should be as complete as possible, because this may affect the amount of the adoption subsidy from the state. The provider should be aware that records are likely to be incomplete if the child is older, has known diagnoses, or has been in multiple placements. It may be particularly difficult to assess such things as maternal alcohol and substance abuse or physical or sexual abuse of the child.
Infants Adopted From Another Country
These infants rarely are newborns. They may be younger than 6 months but usually are closer to 1 year old. They may have medical problems, such as poor nutrition, restricted growth, parasite infestation, lack of medical care, and incomplete or absent immunizations, as well as adjustment problems resulting from institutional care. They may have experienced extreme poverty, only slightly improved by orphanage care, or may come from a background of abandonment and significant alcohol or other substance abuse. These children usually have no available family history or medical records.
Older Children Adopted From Another Country
In addition to the problems infants from abroad may experience, these children may have endured more prolonged periods of abuse, neglect, and institutionalization. They may have had little or no schooling and some period of street life. On the other hand, they may have received relatively good care. Living conditions can range from small foster homes (or the child’s own family) to crowded, poor orphanages.
Medical Considerations at the Time of Placement
The provider should provide a differential diagnosis for any significant finding that does not yet have a specific diagnosis. The provider also may need to outline a worst possible scenario based on the information given to allow the parents to make a realistic decision about the placement.
Children Born in the United States
The following are some medical and social issues that may be encountered in U.S.-born adopted children, with which the provider should be very familiar:
Children Born in Other Countries
The problems parents can anticipate in children from other countries differ in many ways from those of children born in the United States. Although the number of internationally adopted children is fairly small, these children often have medical problems that are unfamiliar and challenging to western providers.
Parents who seek their clinician’s opinion about a child just placed with them may have few records or brief videotapes to view. They rarely have enough information to make truly informed decisions. Medical information provided may be difficult to interpret or wrong, but the provider should advise parents never to ignore a diagnosis made in a foreign country. The provider should look carefully for clues in the referral papers or videos to substantiate any listed diagnoses. It is especially important to look for objective findings that cannot be attributed to prolonged institutional care.
Parents have the right to obtain as complete information as possible and should not immediately accept a referral without further inquiry. Minimally, they should get a date of birth (or estimate), current measurements (height, weight, and head circumference), the results of a recent physical examination, and an estimation of the child’s developmental progress.
Chronologic Age and Growth
A child adopted from abroad may have an assigned birth date estimated by the adoption workers in that country. If the child is an infant, the assigned date usually is accurate enough for evaluation of growth and development. Occasionally, an older child will have a birth date that appears suspicious because the child is small for age. The opposite also may occur; a child may appear to be of appropriate size for age, but is in fact older and small. Such problems occur because of a deliberate underestimation or under-reporting of age to facilitate placement.
Clinical Warning
Children with psychosocial growth retardation due to prolonged institutionalization usually fall behind 1 month of growth for every 3 to 4 months of institutionalization. Weight usually is affected less than height. These children are very likely to have a dramatic growth spurt after arrival in their new homes. If weight is markedly affected, the provider should consider malnutrition as well, although overt nutritional growth failure is much less common than deficiencies of specific nutrients, such as iron or vitamin D.
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The most important measurement is that of head circumference. A small head may suggest inaccurate dating or severe impairment of growth due to maternal alcohol abuse or malnutrition, neurologic disorders, or prematurity. Serious language, cognitive, and social delays may accompany severe growth retardation, for which the provider and parents should look carefully.
The provider should review what information was used to estimate age, including pregnancy history, measurements at birth, or other physical findings. A short delay in growth in an infant may be due to incorrect gestational age rather than true growth failure. Subsequent measurements can be plotted on standardized growth charts for initial comparison. Korean and Chinese children follow growth curves in infancy similar to U.S. children, even in institutional care; children from the Indian subcontinent tend to be somewhat smaller. Growth charts specific for Korean, Chinese, and Indian children are available from the University of Minnesota International Adoption Clinic, identified in the Community Resources section at the end of this chapter.
Development
Not only do these children come from high-risk backgrounds (abandonment, poverty, alcohol abuse, neglect, physical and sexual abuse, inadequate medical and prenatal care, prematurity, or physical handicaps), but they also may have significant health problems due to prolonged orphanage life. Both parents and provider should look for specific clues from the documents and videos that suggest diagnoses (such as FAS) that will make catch-up unlikely after placement with the family.
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Although parents naturally are very concerned about their child’s intellectual, emotional, and social development, it is almost impossible to determine from referral information whether a child is normal. In fact, parents should assume that a child adopted from abroad will not be developmentally normal, because virtually all institutionalized children will be delayed in one or more areas by age 1 year.
Medical Diagnoses
Children from abroad may come with specific medical diagnoses that are difficult for the provider to understand because of obscure, unfamiliar terms or use of familiar terms that differ from western practice. This is especially true for children from Eastern Europe and the former Soviet Union. For example, children from Russia may have the diagnosis of perinatal encephalopathy, a term with ominous connotations to western providers. Russian physicians use this term much more loosely to describe a child at risk for neurologic impairment. Likewise, a Russian child may come with findings unfamiliar to western providers, such as oligophrenia or intracranial hypertension syndrome.
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Sometimes false or exaggerated diagnoses are made to satisfy local requirements for placement abroad. The provider should search the record or video for confirmatory or contradictory evidence, gaps in the history, or problems not mentioned in the list of diagnoses. If the provider cannot reassure the family that a diagnosis is either questionable or false, the clinician may want to consult a specialist experienced in interpreting medical information from abroad for confirmation. No diagnosis should be disregarded in the absence of specific contradictory evidence.
One of the most difficult situations in which adoptive parents find themselves is the referral of a child with an obscure, frightening diagnosis accompanied by incomplete information. If the child has a serious or frightening diagnosis, the report should include the physical findings or laboratory results leading to the diagnosis. It also should include a description of what the child can do and how the child compares with other children of the same age. It may be helpful to send the referring agency a list of developmentally related questions that can be answered with “yes” or “no.” The parents should take time to investigate, obtain consultations, and talk with other families with similar referrals. If they still have substantial worries after adequate time to reflect and research or if they feel pressured to accept a placement that they think they cannot handle, they should consider saying no.
Adoptive parents dread this event above all else. They probably have waited a long time for this referral and already feel a bond with the child in the tiny photograph or brief video. They feel guilty about “rejecting” this child and worry that it will jeopardize their chances for another referral. The provider can help the parents by reframing the discussion in terms of what is best for this child, including the possibility that another family may have more resources to handle this problem.
Preplacement Testing
Parents may be offered the opportunity to test the child for specific medical conditions, such as hepatitis B and human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), before placement. They may ask the provider for advice about the interpretation or desirability of such testing, as well as the long-term implications of these conditions.